Author Darlene J. Conard

“I just wanted someone to love me.”  Jeffery’s words carried the heaviness of pain due to rejection.  He had heard, “You should’ve been a girl,” from his mother.

His unforeseen turnaround unfolded by an elderly couple he saw at a hospital in the waiting room.  The lady filled with compassion came to him and put her hand on his shoulder, “Do you know Jesus? “Oh, I know him well,” he said shrugging her off. 

Jefferey’s story is one of many who struggle with an identity crisis. When I typed, “What are the statistics of gender surgery regret,” in the search engine, it will relay one percent. If you go to YouTube and type in transgender regrets, you’ll find a rabbit hole. To write about what God has assigned for a chapter in my book about identity crisis I had to start there. I struggled as a child. “I wanted a boy!” My dad always made sure that I knew how much I was a mistake. That affirmation was spoken into my life.

The elderly lady’s question didn’t leave Jeffery. “Do you know Jesus?”  He searched for himself to find out who Jesus was. He encountered the love of God. It was through his search to understand who Jesus was that unraveled the confusion. His story is an inspiration.

If you know someone who is struggling with their identity, pray for them. They are wrestling with false affirmations spoken into their lives. Let them know they aren’t a mistake.

It really is a living hell to wrestle with an identity crisis!

I’m grateful that someone prayed for me. I surround myself with praying people because I will always need prayer. Everything that I am is because of Christ, nothing of my ability.

“For the Son of man is come to seek and to save that which was lost.” Luke 19:10 KJV

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